I don’t want to hear “I can’t believe this.”

I want you to read up on the history you’ve had the privilege to ignore.

I don’t want your opinions or thoughts.

I want you to listen to the Black experiences you’ve chosen to forget. 

I don’t want your #BLM Instagram story reposts.

I want screenshots of your bail out money donations and patronage of Black labor/art/knowledge.

I don’t want your passive Twitter likes.

I want you to follow Black tragedies as much as you follow Black trends.

I don’t want to vindicate your white guilt. It’s yours to reconcile.

I want you to check your racist parents and call out your apathetic white friends (especially when there are no people of color there) without expecting a pat on the back.

I don’t want your tears. I have plenty of those.

I want you to check in on your Black loved ones and respect our emotional/physical boundaries.

I don’t want to diminish the adversity you’ve faced from aspects of your identity.

I want you to acknowledge that your life is easier because you’re white. I want you to admit that you would never choose to be a Black person— because you know your life would be harder

I don’t want you to be “a good white.”

I want your activism to be questioned and challenged and criticized by Black people. I want you to grow from your mistakes so we can grow as a nation.

I don’t want your out-of-context MLK quotes on perpetual pacifism.

I want you to see that the only difference between The Boston Tea Party “protestors” and the Stonewall, Watts, and Rodney King “riots” is the former were white and the latter were Black. I want you to be disobedient to signal the need for change and destroy the oppressive systems that make you comfortable and powerful.

I don’t want you to use public demonstrations as an opportunity to role play The Purge or fulfill your Joker fantasies.

I want you to use your white body to shield brown demonstrators from tear gas and bullets.


I don’t want peace. 

I want justice.

I don’t want you to prove that you’re “not racist.”

I want you to know that you are the byproduct of a successful racist regime that has capitalized off of Black oppression and suppression for centuries. I want you to realize that being racist is more American than apple pie.

I don’t want you to feel at ease.

I want you to take a look at yourself. I want you to shed light on the corners of your subconscious you’ve glossed over for years. I want you to know that you are racist because you have be trained to be so, and it’s within your power to become anti-racist.

I don’t want my strength to be praised.

I want you to respect the breadth of my emotions. I want space to break down and acknowledge my grief.

I don’t want to lose your attention.

I want you to remember Tony McDade during Pride. I want you to remember Ahmaud Abrey during Independence Day. I want you to remember George Floyd when you vote in November. I want you to remember Amy Cooper at your Christmas dinner. I want you to remember Breonna Taylor when you hear a knock on your door. I want you to remember Trayvon Martin every time you see a bag of Skittles. I want you to know that this reconditioning is a necessary lifelong endeavor.

I don’t want you to be an ally for me or some other Black person in your life.

I want you to be an active ally because it’s the right thing to do.

Ways You Can Help:


To the family and loved ones of George Floyd, Ahmaud Arbery, and Breonna Taylor

To my Semicolon Bookstore Campaign— supporting Black woman-owned businesses and Chicago youth and literacy.

Or, to an organization: The Bail Project, The Minnesota Freedom Fund, the NAACP Legal Defense Fund, Communities United Against Police Brutality, and The American Civil Liberties Union


If you participate in a local protest, make sure to take the following precautions and acknowledge city curfews— if they apply.

Contact your Congress Representative today


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689 thoughts on “Dear White People, This is What We Want You to Do

  1. how about black folks try some different things. 1: stop trading fathers for welfare checks and baby daddies. (get married, then have kids, and stay together)l. 2: stop living with a victim mentality. a person’s biggest barrier blocking them for what they want in live is their own doubt and negativity. 3: accept the fact that yours is not the only race that was forced into slavery. all throughout history stronger groups (tribes, armies, countries, ect.) have conquered other groups and put them into bondage. it did not start in the west, and sadly, it is still going on in parts of the world today. 4: stop glorifying and looking up to negative role models that promote horrible attributes. 5: even though public education is absolutely terrible, stay in school. even better, support charter schools, trade schools, home school, ect,. 6:stop buying into the myth that the left (democrats) gives a crap about you. they will pander to you every voting year as long as you tow the party line, and they will use you to their gain at every chance they get.
    there are plenty of white folks that need to work on these same issues. it is a national culture as well as a racial culture issue. life is not supposed to be easy, but nor is it impossible, especially in America. it’s what you demand and expect of yourself, not others that will move ahead in life.

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    1. The Declaration of Independence states ” But when a long train of abuses and usurpations, pursuing invariably the same Object evinces a design to reduce them under absolute Despotism, it is their right, it is their duty, to throw off such Government, and to provide new Guards for their future security. ” It is the responsibility of all the citizens of the United States of America to ensure equal rights for all of her people no matter what color, gender, sex, or identification. No matter if they were born here, immigrated here, or were traded to the United States through slavery. If the government is not currently protecting it’s citizens as promised, it is the responsibility of all able bodied citizens to rise up and correct theses injustices. The Founding Fathers of our Nation created a government were the people can make change and instill change. Too many people now rely on career politician to make theses changes. We have become lazy as a nation and now use social media to rant instead of doing hard work and confronting our leaders. These politicians can be replaced by the citizens. Local governments and also community governments can also be changed by the citizens. We have the power to put people in leadership position who best represent our needs and as the Declaration of Independence clearly states, we have the responsibility to overthrow the people in power and replace them if they are abusing their positions. But this means that all people, including people of color must become more active in their local, federal, and state governments. It will take time and hard work and it will take individual sacrifice but that is how change happens. Change never comes easily. And change will never come if we as the citizens on the United States of America continue to separate ourselves into racial groups. We need to unify as citizens, creating an INDIVISBLE front and put in the time to elect and find qualified candidates to represent us. We need to change the justice system, not just for people of color but for everyone. We need to allocate more funding for education and healthcare for all the children and people of the United States. Involvement in our communities on the most basic levels is vital. Leaders and also all who wish for a change need to become directly involved with those of us who suffer the most social and economic disparities, including the poor, homeless, mentally ill, elderly, children and veterans. Change is making a difference in the lives of the neediest of our citizens and improving on our shortcomings. Everyone needs to become involved in community education, funding allocation, and improvements. Open dialects need to be started within communities to start these changes. Changes need to start from the bottom up and through cultural diversity and cultural awareness, communities need to come together and establish how we can make changes in our government on local, state, and federal levels. Law enforcement needs to become better equipped to handle confrontations with the public and become educated in how to properly diffuse situation with people who are upset and angry. They need to be trained to listen more and act less. I have seen many police officers who exemplify this standard. Police need to be able to notice when someone is mentally ill or when someone is under the influence and be able to handle and diffuse these situations better, even if it means doing nothing but patiently waiting until a proper mental health support team arrives. Law enforcement would benefit greatly by adding mental health support teams to their agencies. Also as citizens we need to take responsibility and act appropriately in public and show respect to other citizens, laws enforcement, doctors, and other professionals. Teaching out children how to respect themselves and others is what will drive a change for peace, justice, and freedom. We need to look to our futures while not forgetting out past but we must also let there be forgiveness and healing. We can change The United States of America and we can make the United States finally turn into the country that our past leaders wanted it to be a place “were all men are created equal” and become “one nation, under god, INDIVISIBLE, with liberty and justice for all”
      – signed a proud Female Caucasian American Vetern


  2. Wow.. how to win friends and influence people. A friend of mine, who I admire, posted this on her FB page. You see, I’m trying. I’m reading what I can and attempting to educate myself on what I CAN do. So, I clicked the link. I’ve shed tears over the past week. Sorry if that wasn’t enough for you. But it was a start, no? And my thoughts and opinions DO matter. Your holier-than-thou, slap-in-the-face opinion piece has made me just as angry as the thug (yep, I said it) throwing a brick through a hardworking person’s store window while claiming racial injustice as a pathetic excuse to behave badly. You need to try again. This “privileged” white woman – who was born and raised in a small town in Arkansas with hardworking parents (Wal-Mart, paper mill; yeah, some silver spoon in my mouth there) – is not impressed. You see, racism and bias DOES work both ways. And your lovely attempt for solidarity has shown that. NEXT.

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    1. Spoken like a true racist-that-doesn’t-realize-that-they-are. Well done. You have made your point. And hers.
      And by the way, most of the people looting and smashing windows, are WHITE. Causing shit. I’ve seen TONS of videos of black people trying to STOP looters, and more than I could count of stupid white punks smashing shit up.
      You don’t have to agree with EVERYTHING she says, but there is more that you don’t know here than there is that you do. Get educated. You are on the wrong side of history.
      PS. She doesn’t want to be your “friend”. She wants to be your equal. Wake up.

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      1. you havent seen the same videos I have seen The videos in nyc were 90% black gangs taring plywood off store fronts and then looting the stores!!!

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      2. I got news for you black people can be and are racists also !! Every race has those that are racist !! Not all white people are racist just because they had the “privilege ” of being born white. My people wer Moravians and were persecuted for their faith, they were Irish and poverty stricken. I have been poor then very low middle class and then dirt ass poor. I have suffered and had mistreatment in my life !! I have NEVER judged another person as different based solely on their race !! The Country needs to change and treat people of all races equally and respectfully, but you cannot blame me for those who have abused or mistreated you, I say something when I see it and I use my vote and that is what I can do. I am sorry that it has been this way but I have NEVER done anything racist !!

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    2. If you had made any attempt to educate yourself you would have learned racism doesn’t work both way. It cant. It is unfortunate that some small businesses have been messed with but as a small business owner that is why we get insurance. If you are still upset about property destruction you aren’t listening. Do the work. No one is gonna do it for you.

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    3. We as white people do not get to judge the way that a person of color is feeling or negate that in any way just because it makes us feel attacked or uncomfortable. What we need to do is listen and acknowledge how they’re feeling and do whatever we can to do better, even if we don’t necessarily agree with everything that they say. We’re not the ones who have faced centuries of oppression and are angry and exhausted by the injustice of it all.

      For the record, it doesn’t matter if you grew up in a working class family… you still benefit from white privilege. I should know because I also was raised by two blue collar parents who sometimes could barely make ends meet, but I’m still privileged because I don’t have to worry when I leave my house that I might be stopped by the cops for doing nothing but existing as a black man or woman. I don’t have to worry about being shot for reaching for my license if I get pulled over or for “resisting arrest” when there’s clear video evidence that I’m not. I don’t have to be careful when shopping that I don’t linger too long or run the risk of being accused of shoplifting. I can call the police if something is wrong without fear that I’m going to be the one going to jail or worse despite having done nothing to warrant it.

      White privilege is real and has nothing to do with how financially well off we are or the hardships we experienced in life. That needs to be acknowledged if we’re ever going to do better.

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      1. I am Irish and can understand what people of colour are going through and why they are angry. I also understand that I am a “White privileged” person and know that I have to stand up be counted and try to protect my black brothers and sisters. It is really frightening to be targeted by the police for no reason, I have experienced this in Ireland and England for being Irish. I know that if I keep my mouth shut I can hide my nationality, I am just another white person. Black people can’t hide the colour of their skin. We need equality and we need it now.

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    4. You should’ve taken a moment (or a decade) to reflect on why you feel so defensive before you posted this pathetic rant. Did the tears you cried make a change? No. Did you using a term that has become a racial slur against black men show your true colors (or lack thereof)? Yup. Did your use of quotation marks around the word privilege show your complete lack of understanding the article you’re commenting on? 100%. Hopefully once some time has passed the point the author was making will sink in and you’ll be embarrassed to have written this.

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    5. This article also asks people to behave thoughtfully at protests. It’s not “holier-than-thou,” it is asking white people to stop focusing on ourselves and our emotions and to instead DO something. It is asking us to be HUMBLE in how we listen and reflect on our own thoughts and lives. Of course our thoughts matter, but that’s not the point, and our thoughts and tears alone won’t bring change, but actions will.

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    6. White woman
      Respectfully, I was raised in a small town in Arkansas where 100 years ago, one of the most horrendous rave riots happened in Elaine. We all came from somewhere and we all got a ridge to be angry. Your tears mean NOTHING to us and to our cause for freedom and justice. Take the suggestions that was noted, look at your own white privileged life even if you were poor, because you still had a better life than mine!! Love from across the Railroad Tracks

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    7. AD, you are missing the point. White privilege does not mean you were raised with money or luxury. It means you don’t have to worry about being judged or harmed because of the color of your skin. And it is time for white people to start listening to voices of BIPOC. I am white and poor and I also see my white privilege. I feel safe when the police come near me. Many BIPOC do not. I wish I had better words for this.

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    8. This is not about you! A brick through a window does NOT equal the loss of someone’s life. You cried this week? Good! Keep crying and caring and doing something for someone you don’t know that will make this world a better place.

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    9. This is called ‘white fragility,’ and there is a book that can help. It’s called “White Fragility,” by Robin DiAngelo. I, a fellow white person, am collecting you to do this work.

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    10. I am mixed and I was offended by this article. I’m glad you’re angry at this, you should be. It’s clear to me that this person is racist against white people. You don’t have to do anything. It’s not your fault other people suck. I don’t even know my black history that well…no black person truly does. My dad never told me about his struggles because he pulled out of it. This is such a racist article and anyone who shares this has some kind of grudge against white people. I get more hate from black people than I do white people. Again, don’t feel sorry for being WHO YOU ARE. I am so offended by this stupid arrogant article. I am so sorry for what YOU have to deal with.

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      1. She has to deal with an “offensive” article (which it isn’t), and the author of the article has to deal with threats to her life on a daily basis from the people who are supposed to be keeping us safe. Tell me how that is an inconvenience in *literally* any way.


    11. AD, this post was not a personal attack on you – and no where did it say it was an effort for solidarity. Why do you think this woman’s opinion offends you so much? Look deep… why is that the case? Pray for the willingness to learn and do better.


    12. I feel this statement.
      That I need to dwell in darkness in order to be punished enough just to be accepted by my black friends because I was born white. I’m not allowed to relate to anything because of my skin color. If I do nothing I should be shamed and called a bigot if I do something then it’s wrong and I’m white so therefore I’m a bigot. It’s divisiveness, it’s separating, it’s creating the very thing that they don’t want which is separatism, white people here and black people there. It’s exhausting. I can’t apologize for my skin color just as my black friends don’t want to. Why can’t I acknowledge the evil of the past and chose to not prepetuate it? Isn’t that what is wanted? Change from a person not repeating the past?
      Speaking to the article;
      Admit I don’t want to be a different color? What for, I know if I wanted to be black you would be hating on me for that. I’m sure you wouldn’t want to be white especially in a black mob getting hit by 2×4’s. Is that Justice?
      I think not

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      1. Omg robin dengelo is causing more harm than good. As a white woman I can say without a doubt this person makes blanket assumptions that have no place in reality and I find it very disturbing the amount of white people making this their bible. I guess it’s my aha moment that the majority of whites in this country truly are out of touch with reality. Then again, everyone’s reality is not the same, and not every black person or even a small percentage are tormented and have their lives threatened on a daily basis as one commenter said. Seriously, if you are a whites woman who never had any kind of upbringing with anyone but whites then please shut the f”@k up with your commentary and lectures to other whites as if you are somehow an expert on the black experience because you’ve read some blogs etc.
        there is no doubt a problem with the police in this country that effects us all. I personally sympathize and to the extent possible , empathize with Breonna Taylor and because of my own experience with the police allowing a stalker to break into my home and terrorize me for two years, did not find this story surprising at all! We should all be scared at the power the majority of these hot headed, power hungry, ignorant, sociopaths carrying guns with qualified immunity to do whatever the hell they want to people!

        Real change comes with:
        dismantling and complete overhaul of this Trigger happy, scared incompetent gun wielding, boys club fraternity (the police).

        Money should be raised to fund first appearance attorneys to ensure rights are not violated in horrendous ways. I think it’s a waste to spend that money on bailing ppl out of jail for protesting. If more black men had competent representation in criminal courts there would be a huge decrease in the numbers of incarcerated black men. Our justice system is rigged in a way that only the represented (by competent attorneys) are entitled to those rights we are supposedly guaranteed in the Constitution! Make no mistake, these “rights” the majority of Americans (mostly whites) mistakingly Believe everyone has, mean absolutely nothing to most judges. Procedural due process is the key term here (look it up).

        Finally, we must all understand and realize the real enemy is fear, which is fueled by ignorance and ignorance breeds stupidity.


    13. I am sorry to say that what you have written AD is just another example of how white people will find any reason at all to get defensive and dismiss the truth of what black people are saying about racism and oppressive white behavior. You can make a choice to listen, educate yourself, listen more, rather than dismiss. Us white folks need to take action.


    14. I knew from the first sentence of this comment what the rest would say. As a fellow white woman, I cannot recommend highly enough that you start your anti-racism journey with reading “White Fragility” by Robin DeAngelo. I hope that you take this moment in history to start reflecting on your own need to absolve yourself of your role in our racist society. Not only for the sake of our black community members who experience systemic racism on a daily basis, but for yourself and for your soul. Looking at yourself in an authentic way and learning how racism works on the white liberal mindset is uncomfortable at first, but ultimately the only thing that will set you free from your perceived victim hood.

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    15. This is not the space nor the person to air your racism and “reverse racism” antics. You are starting to do some reading and listening to Black voices, which I love to hear. We as White folks, a group I’m a part of, should be doing that. You then proceed to throw all of that out the window because you “didn’t like” how this Black woman expressed herself. Consider this: would you be feeling the same way if a White woman expressed herself in the same way? Would you be feeling that she was “holier-than-thou”? Black people face this bullshit all the time. Sit with your discomfort this brings up, remember to breathe as you read it. And remember not everyone even gets that luxury. Check your racism at the door.


    16. Goodness, now I know why never to comment on these things. This is my first attempt (and will be my last). My intention was feedback to the writer of the blog, not to get into battle with keyboard warriors. Which, it seems, is exactly what I’m doing with this follow up, but so be it. First: If I had looked up Kandi’s bio before posting, I never would have posted. Very young, beautiful, college student recently studied abroad in Milan… I would wager her experience doesn’t warrant the outrage expressed and is more a blog piece designed to address the issue of the day. (And if my experience with 23 year olds tells me anything – they do NOT want feedback :). Second: I did take offense. Not at her suggestions of how to support the black community, but at the arrogance of telling “white people” that what and how they choose to help and cope are wrong. Third: Don’t lump all “white people” together. That is offensive and that is racist. Fourth: When I say “thug,” I mean a rioter, a looter, a trouble maker, a criminal. I don’t mean “black.” Apparently Barack Obama and I agree on that front: “That is not a protest. It is not a statement. It’s people, a handful of people, taking advantage of a situation for their own purposes — and they need to be treated as criminals. A handful of criminals and thugs who tore up the place.” -President Obama talking about rioting that followed the protests over Freddie Gray’s 2015 death in Baltimore. So don’t use the current president’s words to say it’s now racist because that fits your narrative. Fifth: At some of your suggestions, I did look up “White Fragility.” And thank you for offending me further. Again with the lumping all people together. Isn’t that part of the problem? We look at someone (or read a post from someone) and “assume” by their gender, color, religion, sexual orientation, political orientation or age that we know who they are and we paint them with the same brush. Oops.. which is exactly what I did with Kandi under point number one. Ok, I just schooled myself. I’m sorry Kandi. And that’s truly, honestly sincere. I have no right to question your experiences. So, finally, I guess I learned something in this exchange and that’s the point, right? God Bless.

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    17. Wow. I’m a white woman and I wasn’t offend by this, I found it helpful and interesting. I really don’t know what I should be doing, I want to be helpful, supportive, so better. I need direction and advice. I’m happy to have read this.


    18. Ok, so you’re not “trying.” Your tears were performative. And you are racist (And obviously a Karen)


      1. why is it ok for yu to cal la white women a “karen” that’s offensive and racist


    19. You may feel like you are “trying,” and “listening” and “learning” right now, but your response indicates you have A LOT more work to do. Don’t give yourself a gold star for D+ work. Go inside. Why did you feel attacked? Why did you feel the need to post an angry rebuttal? What did you feel in your heart and your body? Why did you feel like your perspective was the “right” one and added value to the conversation by attacking this person’s request for true allyship? GO DEEPER.


    20. Um…Racism IS a white problem. We invented it…now we have to end it. Black and brown people actually have nothing to do with white peoples issues with race. Except for the fact they are on the receiving end.


  3. Thank you. I don’t want to say or write the wrong thing. I’m trying to learn and I’m letting your advice sink in. Some things confuse me a bit, such as “ I don’t want you to be an ally for me or some other Black person in your life.” I’m not arguing the statement—just trying to figure it out.


    1. I believe she is asking that we (white people) don’t become allies simply because of our friend; that kind comes off as “alright, I’ll do it but only because you are my friend.” We should want to improve, become allies, etc because it is the right thing to do. Dismantling systematic racism and confronting the racism deeply ingrained in ourselves shouldn’t be a favor for a friend.
      Also, it’s okay if you make mistakes so long as you are willing to learn from them (which is sounds like you do) and don’t get defensive when people call you out on those mistakes. It sounds like you are on the right path.


  4. Look at these comments. How few of us are actually listening… Why did you click on this link, if to not try and understand? Just to look for another place to try to shut a black woman down?
    The comments to this article are just another CLEAR indication (as if we needed any more) that EVEN amongst people who think they are on the “right side” of this, we have a lot of learning to do (which requires opening our ears and mind – which is WAY more difficult to do than most of us realize.)
    I’d wager that less than 1% of racist people would identify themselves as racist. They have all the excuses. “Telling it like it is”, “I’m not as bad as THOSE people”, etc. etc. But it’s in all of us.
    Be (more) courageous. Be smart(er). Be better than what you have considered acceptable until now.
    Or live in your (not-as) racist (as THOSE people) shame.


    1. No, racist people don’t identify themselves as racist, because 90% of the real racists are “minorities”, and have been programmed to think they are “entitled” to things that belong to other people

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  5. Kandice, I am a 63 white male. I just want to say thank you. We white folks have a life-time of work to do. May we repent of our personal and systemic racism and work for justice.

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  6. Apologies,I think I misspelled your name. I see now it’s Kandise, with an s. Please make the correction if you would. Thank you.


  7. Dear, black people… I will go, immediately to the black israelites, listen while they call us white pigs and crackers, then proceed to kiss their boots and gravel as I ask them for forgiveness for liberal policies that have been in decimating democrat cities for four decades!

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  8. Dear SJW’s:
    I want you to stop assuming that white people don’t already keep up with ‘black issues’.
    I want you to stop assuming that ‘whiteness’ grants special privileges and an easier life.
    I want you to stop assuming that ‘white people’ don’t have to deal with racists, because they do, and believe me, there are racists of every skin tone, it’s not just reserved for white people.
    I want you to stop pretending like ‘white people’ never have to be afraid because of their skin color. There are a whole lot of places ‘white people’ don’t feel safe, because of their ‘skin tone’.
    I want you to stop assuming that ‘white people’ think white, act, white, and associate with only white people. Don’t assume someone’s cultural white or blackness, the other color of a person’s skin does not define their character. We are all humans.
    I want you to stop telling ‘human beings’ what they need to think, how they need to act, and what they need to spend their money on. No, we human beings don’t have to submit to your demands, this is a free country, we are all autonomous beings and we all make our own decisions.

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    1. White people do not have to fear the way Black and Brown folks do, and trying to equate it is a form of racism. This is a defense mechanism. I highly recommend “White Fragility” by Robin DiAngelo.


      1. I’m m white and I will not walk down Harlem street at night in Chicago. Is that racist? Or are there just things white people shouldn’t do? Or is that it white people need to stay away from black people and stop trying to be an ally. Stay on your white side of life because it’s so privliged being homeless and eating at soup kitchens. This world is hard for everyone to live in. When a white person acknowledgs injustice you should rejoyce and reciprocate calling out injustice you see towards someone else

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  9. To make this all about yourself and your struggle misses the point entirely. I pray that you someday have the perspective to look outside your own experiences to understand the pain of others.
    I can’t open your mind for you, but I can tell you it’s pretty fucked up the way you name call and condescend. Those are not acts of compassion and love. You are adding fuel to the racism fire and (quite honestly) making yourself look like an idiot. I imagine what I’ve said will hurt your feelings and your ego and that’s okay. The opportunity here is to move PAST taking things personally so that you can truly listen to the feedback coming your way. Again, I can’t change the way you think, but as a fellow priviledge white woman, I feel it’s my place to let you know you’re making a fool out of yourself with your anger and ignorant comments. Just think of me as your friend who points out that you have broccoli in your teeth. I don’t want you to look stupid, I want you to look informed and intelligent. But I can’t stick my finger in your teeth and get the broccoli out for you….

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  10. Of all the things you could have taken from the article, THAT is what you’ve got? White privilege is not about growing up wealthy. It’s about your life not having been made harder because of the colour of your skin. This might help you to understand

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    Or this


    Or this

    Many of us have shed tears over the past week. Many have been shedding tears for much longer. Tears don’t change anything. What action have you taken? Your opinions matter but the opinions of white people have always mattered but if we want to change things for Black people, how bout we sit down for a while, shut up and listen to someone else for a change?

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    1. Yes according to democraps blacks NEED white guidance. You stupid white fools BLM is as joke. You all are marching for a criminal who died because a stupid white cop had him pinned to the ground. Make no mistake about it that should have never happened and Floyd criminal record should never have happened either. He was a thug

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    2. None cares about my opinion. It’s just an opinion. I have survived being molested and abused on every level from my step father to boyfriend’s to husband. But my white privilege is an easier traffic stop? I have feared for my life continually from people I’m supposed to trust. There is no white privilege here. But I cannot relate to you because you see my white skin

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  11. I am white but I was not raised to hate black ppeople, brown people or Asian people. I was taught that we are all equal. I had many friends of color and loved them dearly. Hating someone’s color is ignorant. It makes no difference! We are all of the HUMAN RACE!!!!

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    1. No, thanks. I’m good.

      Way to admonish and belittle people who are trying to support your cause. If understanding systemic racism is really about facing socioeconomic realities and not about guilt-tripping people for being white (or about white people feeling the need to self-flagellate), then why go out of your way to make people feel shitty simply for being what they are?

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  12. Sorry, i dont owe you shit. I dont owe any one of you a fuckin thing. So here’s what white people want you to do.
    Prove systemic racism exists in this country. I’ll wait. But when you do provide something it’ll be nonsense. Inviduals are racist, not our laws.

    Prove Floyds death was due to racism.

    Admit you glorify and make martys of your crimimals, the worst of you, and ridicule the best of you because they’re not “cool.” or whatever these days. Calling them uncle toms and coons and wanting to be white, etc.

    Admit the facts. Statistically, theres an average of 3 unjustifiable homicides by police against a black person a year. Thats an average, so obviously its give or take. The average police contacts with civilians per year is 375,000,000. There’s so many fuckin zeros in that percentage, its not even funny. You are all making shit up.

    Admit you’re being manipulated every 4 fuckin years for the elections. Dont believe me? research exactly when these types of things happen.

    Take care of your children, you have the highest rate of single motherhood IN. THE. WORLD. Its proven kids need their fathers, even you attention seeking snowflakes have to admit that.

    Stop robbing and destroying new businesses that attempt to bring new shit to your communities.

    How about ya start by stop killing each others at rates higher than any other group or race in the country

    Admit you perpetuate this bullshit as much as anyone else.

    Stop being responsible for 52% of crime while being 13% of the population. Stop making excuses for your crime.

    Admit most of you blacks wouldnt do ANY of this for me.

    Take a damn look inward, everyone reading this, and think for 2 god damn minutes. Everything in this world has context, and we and the media have become masters of stripping that context away to stand on a moral high ground. The death of George was a tragedy, no one deserves to die. He was a criminal, not a hero, not a martyr. Held a gun to a pregnant womans belly as she cried for her life and the life of her baby, while 5 of his boys ransacked her home, not even a decade ago. Yall dig up bad jokes on twitter older than that and call people nazis…so wheres the consistency? We are becoming a nation of morons, where social status, likes, and the need to be morally right have trumped values likes truth, honesty, knowledge, etc. We do nothing but argue over identity politics, only the true heroes of generations past made true good change in this world, and all of you are shitting on it and claiming to be making it better. Fuck yall.

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    1. Wow, I am so with you. You wonderfully articulated critical points so painfully missing in the mainstream, handwringing, ridiculously hyperbolic narrative. Floyd’s death was unnecessary and tragic. It doesn’t make him a hero, however. I refuse to accept some notion of collective white guilt. I’m not trying to hold anyone down.

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    2. I wasn’t going to comment, but after reading your comment, I couldn’t help myself. Actually, it sounds like you haven’t checked your facts in at least two of your arguments. I’m not sure where you got your arguments from, but please don’t refer to news articles as “facts” as they’re completely biased, opinion-based, & often tweaked information. Peer-reviewed articles are actually rigorously checked by multiple professionals & are based on statistics. That being said, please first read “Trends in US deaths due to legal intervention among black and white men, age 15-34 years, by county income level: 1960-2010” by Nancy Krieger, Mathew V. Kiang, Jarvis T. Chen and Pamela D. Waterman. This will show that your “3 deaths per year” are bogus. Secondly, read “Wiley Patients, Welfare Queens, and the Reiteration of Race” by Khiara & Bridges & “The Nature of Medical Racism” in Black and Blue: The Origins and Consequences of Medical Racism by John Hoberman. These journal articles will explain how the belief of racism is ingrained in American society where people assume black mothers are single, etc (They actually go much deeper than that), but statistically, it’s white women that have higher poverty rates and single motherhood. Again, please check your facts before you start shitting on others.


  13. Thank you for taking the time and energy to write this. A thousand times yes to every line of this piece. Respectfully, I think the orgs that you’re recommending for donations are not very well aligned with the values you’re upholding in your post. This week, I put together a twitter thread on organizations, the vast majority Black-led, which are doing fantastic work and I hope would do you proud. Please check it out if you wish! Thank you. https://twitter.com/chloecockburn/status/1267894967428661248


  14. Not complaining here, but it does seem that different people want different things from white people: on the one hand, “speak less, just listen”; versus “speak up; silence is complicity.” Or “check in on your African American co-workers/employees” versus “I don’t need love texts from my white friends” (both articles in the NYTimes). Or on social media, “show your support” versus “stop virtue signaling.” I will march, I will vote, I’ve spent much of the last year trying to read more history—from Reconstruction onward— I will continue to speak out, as an American citizen, about the deep systemic failings of law enforcement, the justice system, education, housing health, the list goes on. But I hope you will forgive me I some of us if we don’t always know how best to be an ally, and that conscientious Americans—even Caucasian ones—can feel grief, anger, rage, and, sometimes, powerlessness—about this moment of crisis and the many years of injustice an brutality that led to it.

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  15. I had a very basic, entry level awareness of these issues when I was 13 in 1990 because of artists like Public Enemy, Ice Cube, Ice-T etc. I’d read the interviews and get curious about what they, especially Chuck D, were trying to get across and then I’d seek out more in-depth reading materials on the subject. The significance of art’s potential as a powerful tool for cultural awareness and change cannot be understated.
    I saw Rodney King get the shit beat out of him on TV, face down and motionless and I thought “Wow. This is what ‘fuck the police’ was talking about.” And then I heard people make excuses for it. That’s when it really came together for me that the criminal justice game, from arrest to sentencing to prison, is fixed against black people. (Poor people too, but white people can get money and shed that scrutiny on them by the law—black people can’t) And it’s allowed to continue because a significant portion of white people don’t understand that the problem is not “a few bad apples” but that the system inherently protects those “apples” and lets them do it over and over and over again and no steps have ever been taken to correct that. I’ve been saying this for 30 years and for the most part all I get is blank, uncomprehending stares. People just don’t get it. I find that frustrating and I can’t even imagine how frustrating it would be if I was black and trying to get that across to someone who told me my perceptions of reality were false because they didn’t match theirs.
    And the “joker fantasies” part was spot-on. Kids like the ones in the Instagram vid you linked to are hindering progress with their misguided attempts to further it. I don’t know how to get people to understand some of the concepts you put forth in this post, though, but I’ll keep trying. Thank you for sharing your thoughts, and excuse my long-windedness.


  16. “A revolution has many lanes – be kind to yourself and others who are traveling in the same direction.

    Just keep your foot on the gas.”


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  18. Thank you for this. Very thought provoking and well written. I am a white man born with priveledge. In my youth I was trouble and had quite a few interactions with police. I know in my core that if I was not a white young man at that time, I would either be dead or in prison today. I also know that the state of my career is helped by the color of my skin. Thise are simple examples…

    My thoughts are different when a white man enters an elevator vs when a black man does and I hate that reaction in myself. I hate that I try to make sure a black person feels comfortable when I have a brief interaction or when meeting them for the first time. There is more to this and definitely more that I don’t see. I want to do what I can to help us move forward and overcome the persistent racism that has been alive for so long. I stand with you.


  19. ur right. I need to do better.

    I’l never know what it’s like to be Black in the U.S. But I need to always do better because that’s what I would want if I was in the same position.


  20. As someone who knows a former version of themselves that could have written this, there is hope. My ignorance still shames me at times but I realize that my discomfort is not the center stage of this story now. Their pain and anger at irrifutable injustice is. Some people can’t see that they’re identifying with the bodies of buildings being burnt, not the bodies of poc crying to be heard.


  21. I don’t give a rat’s ass what you want me to do. I’m not going to do it. There is no longer any “white privilege in America. That’s an excuse for a lot of low life losers to blame their own failures on someone else. Get off you ass and act like a decent human for a change

    How about you people properly raise the children you create and STOP KILLING EACH OTHER!!! No white person makes you act the way you do. No one said it better than Chris Rock. Google up “Boy, I hate—–“


  22. This is the most pathetic racist bullshit i’ve ever seen. Oh dear me i’m so sorry for being white. Would you like my wallet?


  23. What kind of nonsense did I just read? You cannot talk about privilege when you’re using your skin color to impose upon others, like an entitled brat. I hate to tell you, honey, but this is how racism keeps going. You sound like the white people who told black people where to stand, where to sit, where to eat, etc. You’re no better than they are. Congratulations! 🎉🎉🎉

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  24. I am taking some deep breaths here before writing this reply. My parents didn’t raise me to be color blind but they did raise me to accept all people as equal. That we all bleed red. That someone’s skin color, religion, sexual orientation and anything else not readily coming to mind because I’m incredibly offended at the moment did not matter and all that mattered was how any individual treated me and how they treated others.

    You don’t want my tears.. my tears weren’t for YOU. My tears were for George Floyd and his family and friends. They were for MY friends whose hearts I knew were also breaking. They were for the United States because I’m 56 years old and I keep thinking (Praying) Hoping change will happen. Under Obama so many positive Changes were put into motion only to be thrown in the trash as soon as Trump took office.

    When someone puts lost “Things” as more important than Lost “Life” ANYONE who agrees with that should be ashamed. You can replace your things. You can’t bring the dead back!

    I’m so very sorry Ms Le Blanc if I’m not giving YOU what you want. But you don’t speak for everyone. I know this because my friends of many backgrounds.. of many hues, of many religious beliefs, of many sexual orientations, from all over the world that number in the thousands wouldn’t hesitate to tell me if I was ever out of line.. if I ever displayed some sort of white privilege or failed to acknowledge that whether I asked for it or not I’ve enjoyed the safety of it.

    I can tell you one thing.. every one of my black friends know this redhead would stand between them and any racist son of a Bitch that came for them. I may not win but I’ll die fighting for what’s right!


    1. She certainly does not speak for everyone. I am a black woman and could not stand behind one word of this manipulative rant. Many, many black people are actually just using George Floyd. They don’t care about him or black people like him. So much of this is phony pain.

      Most of the demands she listed are not even things black people do themselves. Most black people know nothing about their history (in fact, many whites don’t know all of the particulars of their own history either), black people have cried about black tragedies and then forgotten about them the next week to follow the next black trend; and while this writer wants all whites to acknowledge their lives are easier than all blacks (which is bullshit), you have to wonder how often she does that herself. I mean, here is a person who has attended college, traveled to Italy (complete with pics of her hanging with her girls), but upon return did she go into the poor black communities and acknowledge the privilege she has? Additionally, I know many white people who never have and never will have the means to travel anywhere and have not attended college.

      Also, maybe the author should acknowledge her own privilege. Black people often treat each other worse than any white person treats them. Trust me, the writer herself has experienced a privileged position amongst black people because of her light skin and her hair. So many black people speaking out now have not even experienced 1% of the things they are expressing. These lists of demands are trying to get white people to live up to a standard that black people don’t even live up to themselves.

      Lastly, what is sad about his rant and so much that is being said by so many black activists these days, is there is absolutely no responsibility being placed on black people themselves. The violence in black communities, the broken families, educational gaps, and so much more, cannot all fall under the “blame whitey” category. Is racism still a problem in this country? Absolutely! However, there are many issues amongst blacks themselves that are hard to solve, and require having tough conversations with black people. I know this because I worked as a social worker for many years. It’s much harder to write a “Dear Black People” letter because then people may have to be faced with the uncomfortable truth that their situation is not all the fault of white privilege. It would also challenge people such as the writer to actually go into those communities and do something FOR YEARS ON END. It’s much easier to write a bunch of “white privilege” garbage like this rather than do the actual hard work within the community that is needed. Spare me.

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      1. Thank you for this comment. We all, every race and community, have issues to work on as human beings to improve and better ourselves. Not one is better than the other and we are only going to be a more cohesive, better society if we drop the toxicity and blame and adopt a mentality of peace, forgiveness, understanding, and hard work. Thank you. ❤️


  25. Interesting, thought provoking blog post. I wonder how this would be received if this was a post written to men about the subjugation and oppression of women? ‘The system’ oppresses people full stop. Black people as a group do not suffer any more or less than women do as a group. Or gay people or disabled people or anyone else who can be singled out, used and devalued. The greed driven system we live in feeds on inequality and division. No one form of oppression is any more terrible or deserving of action than any other. Women are STILL being enslaved and widely treated as objects to be bought and sold and I am sure many men are too. We have to stop identifying ourselves solely by our difference(s) and being aggressive towards those who seek to support us in our plight, no matter how inadequately. I am not racist just because I am white any more than I am homophobic because I am straight or a ‘man-hater’ because I am a feminist. I acknowledge that I benefit from being white, straight, able bodied and middle class but I have been repeatedly sexually abused as a female and scapegoated by my narcissitic family. I may not know what it is like to be black but I do know what it is like to be devalued, physically attacked and singled out in a group. I know what it is like to feel persecuted – I do not need a black skin to experience this. Those of us who seek equality and justice do so for ALL of humanity, no matter what sets us or someone else apart. We are all in this together and we should all stand together and focus on what untites us rather than allowing ‘the system’ to continue dividing us. We all have our battles to fight in this deeply inhumane, unfair world, so let’s fight them together in whatever way we feel able. Black Lives Matter. Ho!

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