I don’t want to hear “I can’t believe this.”

I want you to read up on the history you’ve had the privilege to ignore.

I don’t want your opinions or thoughts.

I want you to listen to the Black experiences you’ve chosen to forget. 

I don’t want your #BLM Instagram story reposts.

I want screenshots of your bail out money donations and patronage of Black labor/art/knowledge.

I don’t want your passive Twitter likes.

I want you to follow Black tragedies as much as you follow Black trends.

I don’t want to vindicate your white guilt. It’s yours to reconcile.

I want you to check your racist parents and call out your apathetic white friends (especially when there are no people of color there) without expecting a pat on the back.

I don’t want your tears. I have plenty of those.

I want you to check in on your Black loved ones and respect our emotional/physical boundaries.

I don’t want to diminish the adversity you’ve faced from aspects of your identity.

I want you to acknowledge that your life is easier because you’re white. I want you to admit that you would never choose to be a Black person— because you know your life would be harder

I don’t want you to be “a good white.”

I want your activism to be questioned and challenged and criticized by Black people. I want you to grow from your mistakes so we can grow as a nation.

I don’t want your out-of-context MLK quotes on perpetual pacifism.

I want you to see that the only difference between The Boston Tea Party “protestors” and the Stonewall, Watts, and Rodney King “riots” is the former were white and the latter were Black. I want you to be disobedient to signal the need for change and destroy the oppressive systems that make you comfortable and powerful.

I don’t want you to use public demonstrations as an opportunity to role play The Purge or fulfill your Joker fantasies.

I want you to use your white body to shield brown demonstrators from tear gas and bullets.


I don’t want peace. 

I want justice.

I don’t want you to prove that you’re “not racist.”

I want you to know that you are the byproduct of a successful racist regime that has capitalized off of Black oppression and suppression for centuries. I want you to realize that being racist is more American than apple pie.

I don’t want you to feel at ease.

I want you to take a look at yourself. I want you to shed light on the corners of your subconscious you’ve glossed over for years. I want you to know that you are racist because you have be trained to be so, and it’s within your power to become anti-racist.

I don’t want my strength to be praised.

I want you to respect the breadth of my emotions. I want space to break down and acknowledge my grief.

I don’t want to lose your attention.

I want you to remember Tony McDade during Pride. I want you to remember Ahmaud Abrey during Independence Day. I want you to remember George Floyd when you vote in November. I want you to remember Amy Cooper at your Christmas dinner. I want you to remember Breonna Taylor when you hear a knock on your door. I want you to remember Trayvon Martin every time you see a bag of Skittles. I want you to know that this reconditioning is a necessary lifelong endeavor.

I don’t want you to be an ally for me or some other Black person in your life.

I want you to be an active ally because it’s the right thing to do.

Ways You Can Help:


To the family and loved ones of George Floyd, Ahmaud Arbery, and Breonna Taylor

To my Semicolon Bookstore Campaign— supporting Black woman-owned businesses and Chicago youth and literacy.

Or, to an organization: The Bail Project, The Minnesota Freedom Fund, the NAACP Legal Defense Fund, Communities United Against Police Brutality, and The American Civil Liberties Union


If you participate in a local protest, make sure to take the following precautions and acknowledge city curfews— if they apply.

Contact your Congress Representative today


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620 thoughts on “Dear White People, This is What We Want You to Do

  1. If you think me, or most white people with common sense give a fuck about something as trivial as your skin pigment your are as ignorant as you accuse Caucasians of being, you are in apathetic, selfish, closed minded individual, and you are leading the youth of this country and your own creed into an irreversible era of violence, you weren’t my slave and I’m not your fucking master, and you know nothing about who I am is an individual and the so called “privelage” i had, I choose the fight for right and wrong, not black and white. May God have mercy on your soul

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  2. The author of this pathetic excuse for a site is NOT EVEN AFRICAN AMERICAN…she is Black American. HER ANCESTORS WERE FROM EUROPE!!! NOT AFRICA!!! THEY CAME TO NEW YORK AND STAYED UP NORTH FOR GENERATIONS. THEY WERE NEVER SLAVES!!! FUCKIN STUPID ASSHOLES WHO DON’T EVEN KNOW THEIR OWN LINEAGE BUT DARE CLAIM SLAVE STATUS…I am a certified genealogist. I work for a well known online heritage site. This is just a scam and desperate attempt to receive attention.


  3. Blacks and whites can’t live together. It’s the only way to solve this issue, we should’ve never thought we could make it happen. It will never work, it never has and never will, we need to split up. I’ll be brutally honest, I don’t give a fck about racism and I don’t need too either. I do agree on one thing I read: the white man should’ve never took you from Africa. Just think how good you would be doing now. It was a mistake.

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    1. Hello Jackson, Unfortunately, what never should have happened did happen. Who I am now in the context of our country’s history is who I choose to be. We can make so many choices, why not choose to be one family on this one planet? I see it as we can choose to accept each other or not. We are all made of the same biology – our ancestors chose to use our physical differences to gain and keep power. We can undo anything we want to – but we have to want to.

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  4. This is horrifically delusional. Im a lower class white who grew up in a poor household and my family and i have never ever been prejudice towards anyone. always welcomed anyone into our homes and hearts. worked hard for everything we had an suffered for it as well. we dont even see black people on a regular basis where we live. why the fuck is any of this my problem, any more than some issue going on in a country across the world?

    if you must care about every injustice that doesnt even involve you, why arent you posting about the rights of aboriginal australians and uyghur muslims in china? or about the serbian and albanian social conflicts? who the fuck are you to say were guilty when weve never even been in a position where any of this is relevant to us? this author needs mental help
    by the way my ancestors were not slave owners. they were natives of russia and rural people.


  5. There’s a good reason why black people get shot you act like fucking animals. you want something for nothing you lazy motherfukers


  6. George Floyd got what the fuck was coming to him he shouldn’t have acted like a fucking idiot when they asked him to get out of the car


  7. Holy smokes these comments are awful. I am commenting to add weight against this craziness. I loved this post. I appreciate you taking the time to help people like me – white and actively working to be anti-racist – know how to show up. We are using race muscles we are not used to using and I appreciate the suggestions and guidance as I work to build my own anti-racism muscles.


  8. This is so condescending and reeks of the black victimhood bullshit pervaiding the west, especially the USA. It is this sort of antagonising nonsense, based on a lie, which stokes fear and hatred. But when non-black people call foul of this inaccurate narrative of systemic racism they are apparently racist.
    Unfortunately it is this unfounded bullshit that is inciting a race war at present in the USA, propagated by the BLM idiots. And black victimhood preachers are screaming “told you the white man was against black people”. But what did they and their supporters expect would happen? Regardless of skin tone you can’t antagonise a peoples and not expect a retaliation eventually. Just look at 9/11. Retaliations are inevitable given enough time and pressure. You can call it however you want but some idiots have pushed and pushed against authority, citing race as their reasoning, and now those people and their supporters are pushing back; trying to prevent the destruction of public buildings etc being their reasoning.
    All of these riots and lots of pain, death and destruction coming about due to unfounded fears of innate racism being embedded within authority is pointless and sad. I can see it becoming a self fulfilling prophecy unfortunately though! The USA especially is currently a powder keg just waiting for a spark. 😐


  9. I just want to say, THANK YOU for this article and for the resources. To everyone commenting, please consider if you would say the same thing to a loved one. Many of these comments are hurtful and harmful, and we as humans can be better than that.


  10. This makes me want to kill myself. My DNA is inherently evil as a white person. I cannot connect to my ancestors or culture because they were evil. I have longed for the guidance, the connection. I have felt horrible about this my whole life and have never felt at ease. It would be better off if I was dead. No matter what I do, it is never enough to erase history. One less white person to get in the way.


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